I’ve been with my boyfriend for about 10 months and a week now. I love him so much. We had a really rocky patch a few months back but we stuck it out. Now, I knew before I started dating him, that he had a lot of friends that were girls. I thought I would be one of those girls secure with herself, and that I wouldn’t turn into a psycho. Well I did turn into one of those jealous girls. I hate it but, I have had problems with guys talking to “Just Friends” in the past and turns out there was something more. He originally told me that he and this girl were just friends. A few weeks into dating he mentioned that they had gone out but it just didn’t work and they didn’t talk for months. Now this girl is by my standards “gorgeous” shes a size 1…3 maybe, has big boobs, long blonde hair and blue eyes.( I’m pretty happy with my body.I’ve been told aside from the boob size I’m built like my idol Dita Von Teese so no complaints there) I’ve had bad experiences with girls like that stealing guys I was going for away from me. In December, on a day I was going Christmas shopping for him, this girl decided she wanted to come over and practice guitar with him ( she plays metal guitar..I just listen to metal music). Of course it had to be a day I couldn’t come over. A week before that she had asked my boyfriend if he knew any good single guys. When he said he had one he knew she would like she replied “YOU??? I thought you had a girlfriend already silly!!!” My boyfriend doesn’t understand just how evil girls can be, and laughed it off. He thinks that if he says he has a girlfriend automatically girls get the message. He doesn’t see all the girls eyeballing him when we go out. I’ve watched girls follow us around the store and try and brush past him, until I give them the “I’ll poke your eyes out b**** ” look. Now back to this girl. I told him I didn’t like them talking until I met her and saw how they were together. It nearly caused us to break up because he said I didn’t like any of his “girl friends”. ( NOT TRUE: His one friend is amazing and we get along great. She always makes sure at parties she has to introduce me as his girlfriend.And she is very down to earth.) This girl…she began IM-ing him while I was at my job for 8 hours. I quit that job a while ago, but when I would come home at 2:30 and walk into my room he would quickly shut down the IM box. Turns out she would be talking to him for hours each day. We had a huge discussion about him talking to her, and eventually they just quit talking. We got into a fight recently, and go F*n figure this girl who hasn’t been online for months, signs back on, and as he IM’s her she was all ” OMG THATS SO FUNNY! I was just thinking about talking to you today!!!”. He has invited her to hang out with us before, and she’s always too busy when she knows I’ll be there, but when she was going to come play guitar when he lived at his parents house & knew it would just be the two of them. Well she had time until she got called into work or something…IDK exactly why she changed plans that day it was something like that.
I don’t know..Now that they are talking again and she is back on-line they are talking a few times a week. I don’t mind him talking to “girl friends” considering I’m mutual friends with the one, but this girl…I just have a horrible feeling about her. I don’t know is my seething jealous wrong? Or should I still keep an eye on this?
We have talked about this before. He promises he isn't interested in her at all. She is born again christian and very well she professes her faith openly. My boyfriend and I are both Agonistic. I just have bad feelings about her. She once expected him while I was at work to come pick her up at college about 2 hours away ( in the car that was once MINE) so she could come to a concert with us. He said no he couldn't do that and I appreciated that a lot. Recently I was depressed ( it runs in my family) and he got freaked out that he did something. We love each other. His mother said I'm the best thing to happen to him. I am part of his "unofficially" part of his family. I'm included in discussions about family problems. Like I said I dont care if he has "girl friend" this girl just strikes a nerve with me. And I do trust him. He does NOT look at other girls when we are out, EVER. He even quit talking to one girl because she woudnt respect the fact that he had a girlfriend. But this girl..
okay, first off, your feelings are SO normal. jealousy is how us girls show we care. im in college, and i swear to you, the girls get hotter, and more aggressive, it’s awful.
it’s cute when a girl gets jealous, and understandable, but at times, you must keep it to yourself or you’ll scare your man away! insecurity is SO unattractive, i’m sure you’ve seen other couples display it. don’t be the idiot girlfriend who had a great boyfriend but couldn’t believe he was all hers! he would not stay with you if he didn’t love you. quit focusing on her, and focus on him!! buy some sexy lingerie and and show off your body for him, clearly, your boyfriend likes a confident woman. or if you aren’t participating in that yet — bake him some of his favorite treats and hide a sweet note in it.
and always keep your eye out, but don’t let it stress you out like this.
good luck!!