Question by bermudashorts01: My brother’s taking over?
Alright, I’ve played classical piano for 5 years and recently stopped cause it wasn’t my style…I was very consistent with practices and what not, and everyone said I have a gift from God playing piano like I did.
By older brother started playing on the piano, and started doing songs and playing by ear. Our churches praise and worship leader said he had perfect pitch, and that he could pick out anything on the piano.
Well, to make a really long story short, my brother has gotten pretty good on the piano, but they are things I can play-and they sound hard-but are easy, and my parents rant and rave over it all-they NEVER did that with me.
Whenever I would learn a song that took me months to learn, he’d go right behind me and try to copy me, and my parent’s would rant and rave; which therefore made me feel like DIRT.
Recently, I’ve started acoustic guitar, and my parents have been saying I have a knack for it, and that I’m awesome at it. I felt so good about it, until my mom asked my brother, “Why don’t you learn the guitar?? You’d be great at it!”
Taylor(my brother) said no, he didn’t want to. So she said alright.
Recently, when I was gone shopping, he had taken the guitar I BOUGHT out of the case, when I had strictly told him not to, and started playing it without permission. He all of the sudden learned a few chords. I did the same thing, but I’m really afraid the process of the whole piano thing is gonna start with the guitar. I asked him, “I thought you didn’t wanna learn the guitar?” he said, “That was before I knew I could play it!” Once again, it made me feel like dirt, and I’m really scared every-thing’s gonna happen again.
It may sound like I’m jealous, but I love music, and he’s stealing every bit of confidence from me! I feel like I’m just his shadow or something.
I can sing, but my parents don’t know I CAN! I feel that’s the only way I can get anything back…But IKD..It seems like all this attention has gone to his head, and he’s just being a jerk..Oh, and if you want to hear me; go to Youtube, and search thetolkienfreak. You’ll find my videos.
Thanks in the future!
Best answer:
Answer by Macy
I think you need to separate yourself from your brother. Not literally but musically. Try to find some other people that you can play music with. Maybe start a band. That way, you have a whole new reason to get praise for your musical ability.
Or you and your brother could play music together and get equal praise. You play piano and he plays guitar at the same time. I think each of you needs your own instrument and an agreement not to play the others’ instrument, if that makes any sense. That way, you both get praise but for different reasons.
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